Things You Should Not Tell Your Man
While it is good and to be open
and honest in your relationship when communicating with your partner, to have a
long-lasting and beautiful union. Sometimes it is better to keep certain issues
to yourself. It doesn't mean you should be dishonest, but only talk about it
when it is extremely important. Men may seem tough and hard but they are also sensitive
beings who can pretend not to care when they really do.
So, here are a few things you
shouldn’t say to him no matter how much you love him: note that the only time
you are actually allowed to tell him any of these is when he actually insists
and press very hard to know. Even at that, be sure you don’t say it in a way
that will hurt him.
1. The real reason you broke up
with your ex: He really doesn’t need to know why you broke up with your
ex-boyfriend. I know ladies have a bad habit of telling too much when it comes
to our past relationships (even when no one asks). Your man does not need to
know your last boyfriend cheated on you or that you cheated on him. Just say it
didn’t work it out.
2. Your friends’ personal life: Ladies, I
can’t tell you how many times we fall into this trap of getting so close to our
man that we start to share the juicy gossip stories about our friends. This is
never a good idea. Men are hardwired to only hear the facts so they are not
going to understand that your girlfriend is painting the town red with every
eligible bachelor because she is trying to take her mind off her broken heart.
He is only going to conclude that your friend is ‘loose’. Plus men often times
have a bad memory and forget that what you told him was a secret and may ask
your friend about something he should never have uttered.
3. You hated the gift he gave
you: Like I mentioned before, men are very sensitive especially when they are
trying to please you. If he buys you a gift that you absolutely hate – just take
it! Tell him that you love it and you appreciate his thoughtfulness. I know
this may be hard to do with a smile but trust me it will be worth it in the
long run.
4. Confess that you lied: I know
this sounds contradicting, but under no circumstances should you confess that
you lied about something. It will only make you look bad and the situation
worse. Men want to believe that everything that comes out of their woman’s
mouth is the sweet honest truth. Let’s please keep it that way. Well, unless
the confession will save a life or something close.
5. How you really feel about his
mother: I should have made this point number one. Never, ever, ever tell your
man what you really think about his mother. His mother just may be conniving,
manipulative, sneaky or whatever but his mother is second to God (maybe before)
in his life. So no matter how real you want to keep it, never keep that part
real. Well, except its something positive.
6. Who you had personal affairs
with during a breakup: Sometimes couples break up and then get back together a
few months later with this notion of putting everything on the table to start
fresh. While this is great news there are something’s that should be kept in
your back pocket like who you had a few rendezvous with while you were living
the single life. All your man needs to know is that you spent your time
reflecting on what went wrong in the relationship and getting to know yourself.
While there are many other things
not to tell him, these are the most important things you need to keep to
yourself to actually avoid unnecessary drama in your relationship.
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