Qualities That Makes A Person An Ideal Partner
While the reasons we fall in love are often a mystery, the reasons we
stay in love are far less elusive. There may be no such thing as the perfect
partner, but an ideal partner can be found in someone who has developed
themselves in certain ways that goes beyond looks, charms and success. Although
we each seek out a specific set of qualities that is uniquely meaningful to us
alone, there are certain psychological characteristics both you and your
partner can strive for that make the relationship much more likely for lasting
success.

Some of these include:
Some of these include:
1. An
ideal partner is grown up:
One common
criticism people make about their partners is that they need to “grow up.” What
many of us fail to recognize is that growing up is not merely a matter of
acting like an adult. To truly grow up means recognizing and resolving says early
childhood traumas or losses, and then understanding how these events influence
our current behaviors. Therefore the ideal partner should be willing to reflect
on their past. They possess a maturity that comes from being emotionally
emancipated from their family of origin. They have developed a strong sense of
independence and autonomy, having made the psychological shift from boy to man
or girl to woman. Having broken ties to old identities and patterns, this
person is more available to their partner and the new family they have created,
as opposed to the one in which they were born.
Because
this partner has grown up, they are less likely to re-enact childhood
experiences in an intimate relationship. Because they have evolved as a person,
they aren’t looking for someone to compensate for shortcomings and weaknesses.
They aren’t looking for someone to complete their incompleteness. Rather this
person is looking for someone like themselves. They are looking for another
adult with qualities similar to theirs, with whom they can share life in a
compatible fashion.
2. An ideal partner is open and non-defensive:
The ideal
partner is open and undefended, and is willing to be vulnerable. As a result,
they are approachable and receptive to feedback without being overly sensitive
about any topic. Their openness also enables them to be forthright in
expressing feelings, thoughts, dreams and desires. It includes an interest in personal
and sexual development.
3. An ideal partner is honest and lives with
integrity:
The ideal
partner realizes the importance of honesty in a close relationship. Honesty
builds trust between people. Dishonesty confuses the other person, destroying
their trust along with their sense of reality. Nothing has a more destructive
impact on a close relationship between two people than dishonesty and
deception. Even in such painful situations as infidelity, the blatant deception
involved is often more hurtful than the unfaithful act itself.
The ideal
partner strives to live a life of integrity so that there are no discrepancies
between one’s words and actions. This goes for all levels of communication,
both verbal and non-verbal.
4. An ideal partner is respectful and
sensitive to the other:
Ideal partners value the others interests separate
from their own. They have uniquely individual goals
and priorities. They feel
congenial toward and supportive of one anothers overall goals in life. They
are sensitive to the other’s wants, desires and feelings, and place them on an
equal basis with their own. Ideal partners treat each other with respect and
sensitivity. They do not try to control each other with threatening or
manipulative behavior. They are respectful of one another’s distinct personal
boundaries while at the same time, being close physically and emotionally.
5. An
ideal partner has empathy for and understanding of their partner:
The ideal
partner perceives their mate on both an intellectual, observational, emotional and
an intuitive level. This partner is able to both understand and empathize with
their mate.
When a
couple understands each other, they become aware of the commonalities that
exist between them and also recognize and appreciate the differences. When both
partners are empathic, that is, capable of communicating with feeling and with
respect for the other person’s wants, attitudes and values, each partner feels
understood and validated.
6. An ideal partner is physically affectionate
and sexually responsive:
The ideal
partner is easily affectionate and responsive on many levels: physically,
emotionally and verbally. They are personal, acknowledging and outwardly
demonstrative of feelings of warmth and tenderness. They enjoy closeness in
being sexual and are uninhibited in freely giving and accepting affection and
pleasure during lovemaking.
7. An
ideal partner has a sense of humor:
A sense of
humor can be a lifesaver in a relationship. The ability to laugh at one’s self
and at life allows a person to maintain a proper perspective while dealing with
sensitive issues that arise within the couple. Couples who are playful and
teasing often defuse potentially volatile situations with their humor. A good
sense of humor definitely eases the tense moments in a relationship. Besides,
it always feels good to have fun with someone!
What do you think? Are there some qualities I omitted?
I love number 3... so correct!!
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